Tuesday, May 20, 2008

The world is your oyster!

I feel very fortunate to have been raised in a loving home by supportive parents. This is not to say they are perfect, but they have always tried their very best to be supportive. Often times they do not agree with my decisions because they do not mesh with their religious beliefs, that of a Latter Day Saint. Sometimes my mother will let her disapproval show. Like when I wear a tube top that shows a bit more skin than she would like. She will just look at me, shake her head and say nothing. But I know, and she knows I know. All that said, I am fortunate. I have had my challenges in life (who hasn't), and there was a period of time when I had "mommy issues", but I can honestly say I have moved past that and feel blessed to live the life I leed.
In Utah, being a 27 (almost 28!) unmarried female with no children is a little rare. To a lot of the community I am an old maid. I mean what's wrong with me? I'm not married with 2.5 kids? Somebody check her temp because she must not be well! I recently opened a facebook account and have started to be contacted by all the people I went to high school with. I am not exaggerating when I tell you that 90% of them are married with 1-2 kids. I am happy for them, but at the same time a little confused. All these amazing bright intelligent women go to college, get a degree, get married, have children and never work. I guess it can be disputed that being a mother is work or their "job" and I am sure it is. I don't want to come across that this is not an important roll. I just don't know that it is the roll for me. In Utah it seems to be all of the womens ultimate goal. For me however, having children is not my ultimate goal. More my if it happens down the road with the right person at the right time - great! If not, I'm ok.
I like my life. There is always room for improvement and it is far from perfect, but all things considered I have a good life! I have a good job in an industry that challenges me and I love. I have amazing genuine friends. I live in a place surrounded by beauty that constantly has the ability to take my breath away. My family is close (sometimes a little too close) and always there for me. I am financially stable...not rich or incredibly well off, but I have enough to get by and enjoy life. I have my independence and my freedom. What more could a girl ask for?


Candice Warby said...

Your address is Summerbray, and your name is Summer Love....hmmm. :) I liked your blog, and I appreciate your perspective. But I hope that you aren't putting down women who choose to stay home rather than enter the workplace. I am one of those people who has gone to school and gotten a degree, and I can't wait until I can stay home with my child(ren), rather than be in an office setting. There are different rewards in different things we do, and what makes you happy is determined by the things you value. I'm just glad that we are each happy with our lives, because that is what we're all striving for. I love you, girl!

Anonymous said...

HI Sum!
It's your cute mom. I am in beautiful St. George, spending time with my mom & dad as you know. It's amazing the peace and restfulness i can acquire down here amoungst the red rocks and my parents. I appreciate the comments that both you and candice have made. You are both so wise for your years. I agree with candice that what makes us happy is what we truly value. I also believe that can and does involve as we age and thru our life experiences. I also believe that's why family & family relationships are so interesting & important. Well enough from dear old mom. I"m going back out to the sun and play some games. I hope the weather cooperates and that you get your hike in this week! Love ya always!!